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Family Vacation Ideas: How Best To Engage Children Of All Ages


Last Updated on August 29, 2023 by Nicole

I am a mother of four kids, three of which are now teenagers and one who is an adult. Where has all the time gone? Yikes!

One of my most favourite things that I love to do with my children is travel. We have been doing this together since they were babies and it is unequivocally one of the most important ways in which we reconnect and bond as a family. I can not emphasis enough how important our family holidays have been in creating the connections we have today as a family, even as everyone’s lives seem to get busier and busier and more complicated.

Where Should You Go?

Creating lasting memories and bonds from holidays is not something that just happens. I believe that a lot of thought and planning needs to be involved in order to get the most out of your holiday. This starts with picking the right destination. In my previous blog Holiday Destinations: Where Should Your Family Go?I discuss how I went about deciding where my family was ready to go at different stages in my children’s life.  My whole goal was to make sure everyone finished the holiday loving it. This included me and my husband (we needed a holiday too) and my children, even when they were really young. If you pick the wrong destination for the age and temperaments of each member of your family, someone is going to be miserable and that will likely ruin the holiday for all.

Where Should You Stay?

Related to this, is making sure that you have the right accommodation for your family. This seems self evident, but sometimes I don’t think it is properly thought out.

If each of your kids have their own room and their own bed at home, why do you think sticking all your children in one room, or making them share a bed will result in bliss? You might think, “Well, they should be grateful they are on holiday regardless”, and yes, that is theoretically true. However, they might be too young to get that, or the relationships between siblings might be very strained at that particular point in time. What kind of holiday would it be for you if the kids are constantly fighting in their room because they just can’t work it out or get enough space from each other? Not great, right? So, it is something to think about it and one that I explore further in my blog, Accommodations For Small or Large Families: How to Create The Best Family Vacations.

What Should You Do?

Finally, you need to figure out what to do once you get to your ultimate destination. Doing too much or too little for the ages and interests of everyone in your family will have a definite impact on everyone’s overall enjoyment. In this blog, this is my focus. How do I make sure our holidays are filled with just enough excitement and downtime to meet everyone’s needs?

Young Family

The answer to that question begins with making a proper assessment of the age and maturity of your children. Up until our youngest child turned 7 years old, we only went to warm destinations and stayed in accommodations that had a pool. We kept things very simple. We packed up our travel stroller and spent our days at the beach or the pool. Sometimes we spent the day on a boat, other times we might have rented snorkelling gear, or boogey boards. If there were child centred activities, like an Aquarium, we would go there. These holidays were definitely not stimulating for an older child or an adult, but it worked when our children were young. They were peaceful and relaxing holidays for everyone.

Playing at the beach in Hawaii is a great way to engage a family with children who are young.
Endless days at the beach making sandcastles and playing in the waves were very entertaining when our children were young.

The advantage of these sorts of holidays is that they don’t really require an itinerary. Once you have researched where you should go with your family and where you should stay, you can pretty much just arrive with your bathing suits and sunscreen, ready to get on with your holiday.

Pool time is an amazing way to engage a family with young children
There is never enough time in the pool when your children are young.

Older Children

However, there comes a time when this type of holiday becomes “boring” for your children.   When exactly that happens to your family will depend on your children.

For us, this happened around the time my two older children were 14 and 10 years old (my other two were 7 and 8 years old). Don’t get me wrong! My children were still excited to go on holiday. However, after the first or second day at the beach or the pool, they started to want to spend more time inside, watching TV or playing on their devices. In other words, doing separate things! This was not my goal for our holiday. I wanted to reconnect as a family; share experiences that would leave lasting memories; and spend more time together, not less. We needed to change the way we went on holiday together in order to accomplish these goals.

Our first major trip beyond a beach/pool type of vacation was Europe in the summer of 2012. My oldest child was 14 years old and my youngest was 7 years old. My oldest was ready for cultural tours and visits to art galleries, whereas my youngest could still spend all day in the pool. We spent 5 weeks in Europe and everyone had an amazing time. How did we do it?

A Walking tour of Girona, Spain is a great way to engage a family with children of all ages
A walking tour of Girona, Spain included lots of ice cream and pool time once we got home.

Finding A Balance

I tried to make sure that every day was balanced – filled with fun, adventure, and of course, a little bit of history and culture.

It is tempting to go to Europe and plan to visit every important church, museum and art gallery that you have ever heard of in the city of your choice. You don’t know when you will be back. It costs a lot of money to get there and spend time there, especially with kids.

However, no matter how old your children are, I guarantee you that they don’t want to spend all day, every day, being educated. They might be interested in seeing a church, or visiting a museum, but they will have their limits. After that, we all know what follows – a lot of complaining. You still might be able to drag them around from site to site, but you will not be reconnecting with your children. You will be annoyed with them and them with you. Your lasting memories of this amazing adventure to Europe might end up being one that you never want to have again.

Our First Week in Europe

During our first week in Europe, we rented a house with a pool near the beach in Lloret Del Mar, Spain. Every morning, my three youngest kids got up and immediately went swimming. After lunch, we explored. One afternoon, we drove to Girona and went on a half day walking tour of the City. On another afternoon, we visited the Dali Museum in Figueres. After each of these outings, we went home and the kids went back in the pool.  In the early evening, we chose a nearby town, a different one each night, and went out for dinner and then, casually explored that town.

Ice cream treats were liberally handed out throughout the day, depending on the tone of the day. Some days were very hot and a little harder to stay focused. While other days, we had a long commute in the car. Sometimes, I was just impressed by how my kids behaved. It is astonishing how ice cream can be the solution for most everything!

Exploring Portillgat, Spain where Dali lived is a great way to engage a family with children of all ages.
Exploring Portillgat, Spain where Dali lived.

Full Day Trips

There were a couple sites that I wanted to see that ended up being full day excursions. One day we went to a National Park and went ocean kayaking with a guide. On another day, we did a full day tour where we drove to Cadaques and visited Dali’s home in Portillgat.

However, we never did back to back full day trips. They were always spaced out with more relaxed days in between. Further, we never did back to back cultural or historical type tours regardless of whether they were half or full days. I always made sure that a more “serious” day was followed by a more fun or adventurous type day. Finally, no matter what we did, I always made sure the kids made it back in the pool before bed time. A long day was quickly forgotten with some fun in the pool!

Playing around Dali's Home in Portilligat, Spain is a good way to engage a family with young children.
Playing around Dali’s home in Portillgat, Spain was a fun way to engage the kids when they were young.

My kids slowly learnt that if they stayed focused and engaged on the historical and cultural things, they were rewarded with fun times in the pool, adventures and lots of ice cream! My oldest was ready to expand her mind. She didn’t need the same persuasion to learn about the history of northern Spain or about Dali and his creations. However, even with her, I know that balancing the educational days with the more carefree days were impactful.

Teenage Years

Fast forward 6 years, and today my children hardly spend any time in a pool if air conditioning is available. Nonetheless, the principles that I started 6 years ago – making sure that I am creating a balance – still rules the philosophy behind the itineraries that I create. My kids know that for each day that includes an educational experience, the next day will not. On the contrary, I will do my best to find some excitement, if available.

A bike ride in Vietnam is a great way to engage a family with older children.
A bike ride in Vietnam.

Beach Holidays

It might seem that the best type of vacation that you can take with your older children or teenagers is a beach holiday where the goal is do very little and everyone lazes around the pool. However, in my experience, these have always been the most disappointing type of holidays. Sure, the weather is beautiful and hot. The pool and beach are spectacular and inviting, and the food is often decadent.

But, what seems to happen is that everyone just does their own thing. Even worst, wifi is usually offered throughout the resort. Once your children reach a certain age, it is very difficult to stop them from bringing their devices to the beach or the pool without an argument.  Then, all they are doing is staying connected with their friends back home through social media. There are a few tricks that I have learnt over the years to deal with smart phones and my kids’ constant need to remain connected to their friends while we are on holiday.  For tips, please refer to my blog Teenagers: 7 Ways To Limit The Negative Effects of Social Media On Your Family Holiday . However, this is definitely more of a challenge on a beach/resort type of family holiday.

Adventure Holidays

If your goal from a vacation is to reconnect with your children, then you need to find destinations where you can reconnect. I have learnt that for my family, the best destinations are in developing countries where adventure and authentic connections with the local culture is easy to accomplish. Further, wifi is limited, and some of the simplest activities, like exploring a bustling food market or hiking in the jungle are interesting and create lasting memories.

The Clay licks in Ecuador is a great way to engage a family with older children.
Watching the parrots at the clay licks in the Amazon of Ecuador requires children to remain quiet and still.
Exploring the Galapagos Islands is a great way to engage your family with older children
Exploring the Galapagos Islands.
Visiting India with children is a sophisticated travel choice for a family with older children.
Playing enormous game of chess in Jaipur, India

Then, you need to create a balanced itinerary for your trip. I still try to blend fun and adventure, with moments of learning. Good examples of this are our 14 day Colombia Itinerary (A 14 Day Colombia Itinerary: A Country of Contrasts) or our 14 day India itinerary (Fourteen Days in India with Kids: Cows, Culture and Chaos).

Each day on your holiday can be simple, complicated, fun, educational, awe inspiring, humbling, exciting… depending on your family’s interests. It’s really just about having moments where you get to be together and share life a little bit differently than at home.

For other articles about how to plan the best family holiday for your family, please refer to the following:

Holiday Destinations: Where Should Your Family Go?

Accommodation For Small or Large Families: How to Create the Best Family Vacations

Long Haul Flights: Tips For Surviving Travel With Your Kids

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How do you create the best itinerary for your family? How do you balance the different needs of different people, especially when there is a big age difference between children or radically different ages? How do you make sure you don't over due it so that your children become whiny and difficult? How do you keep everyone stimulated and engaged but also have time for relaxing? These are some of the issues that I address in this blog.

You have booked your dream vacation with your kids, but now, you are not sure how to create the best itinerary for your family. You want it to be fun, maybe a little adventurous, a little educational, with some downtime. So how do you create the best itinerary that will satisfy all the different ages and interests of everyone in your family with these goals? Here's how! #travel #familytravel #familytraveltips #traveltips #travelwithkids #travelwithteens | itinerary, child, activities,

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1 Comment

  • I think it is a great idea to stay in in space wifi is limited. I do not have any kids but my sister has four and they love the Internet and would probably do the same as your children if they had wifi.
    I also see you went to Spain, my mother was from Spain.

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